40 seconds that will change your life.

I watched three very different things happen in the last week, completely unrelated, and all with the same outcome.

First, I had a friend attempt her first 100-mile endurance run. She was well-trained and had her nutrition and race plan completely dialed in. She didn’t finish – struggled to get to mile 70. When I texted her the day after and said, “How are you this morning?” she replied: “Sore and disappointed. Yesterday just wasn’t my day.”

Second, my executive assistant went to renew her driver’s license in the state of Arizona, only to discover that the state of California had flagged her name for failing to complete an 18-month online course after a relatively serious infraction that happened years ago. The online school went out of business during COVID. She called to tell me “I’m going offline for the afternoon because I’m just so frustrated that a mistake I made years ago is still costing me. UGH.”

Third, I caught an absolutely terrible virus last week. And man, do I hate being sick. I started feeling bad on Sunday and nonetheless kept a full schedule on Monday and Tuesday. After my first Zoom session on Wednesday morning, I relented and canceled the remainder of that day’s meetings and made an appointment at Urgent Care.

I was blaming myself – “Come on, Kristie. You’re tougher than this.”
I was blaming chemotherapy – “Stupid chemo drugs that killed my immunity.”
I was frustrated. “I don’t like letting people down and canceling things.”

In all three of these situations, the first response, the first “voice” that appeared was not one of kindness, one of grace, or one of understanding.

Why are we all so hard on ourselves? Why do we say things to ourselves that we would never say to our dearest friends if they were going through the same thing, made the same mistake, or didn’t accomplish something the first time they set out to do it? Enough already. I learned this week, from two of my favorites (pictured below), that there’s a 40-second solution.

Watch it here...because how we talk to ourselves matters MORE THAN ANYTHING.

“The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.”
– Shad Helmstetter
We all face challenges. What if you could learn to conquer them rather than just survive them?

Learn how on Saturday, June 3, 2023, from 10 am – 5 pm EDT for
a VIRTUAL Workshop on Resilience
where you will hear from
12 incredible speakers on how to become more resilient.
100% of your registration fee goes directly to Challenged Athletes Foundation. To register, and for more information, click here.

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